Women Share What Truly Makes Men Great In Bed — And It Might Surprise You

Sure, global average penis sizes might have been causing a stir recently, but honestly, there’s no need to stress.

According to the survey, being good in bed really has little to do with size at all.

Elite Daily asked 100 women aged between 19 and 50 to weigh in on what actually makes a guy stand out under the sheets.

They were then asked to rate whether each one was ‘very important,’ ‘somewhat important,’ or ‘not important’ when deciding if a guy was truly good in bed.

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Confidence

Confidence topped the list, with 96 percent of women agreeing that a man taking the lead is key — but only if he stays tuned in to their needs and listens to feedback too.

Getting a little adventurous was also a big hit, with 86 percent of women saying they don’t just want the same old moves.

Trying out new positions and switching up the rhythm was just as important for keeping things exciting.

Sometimes a little movie-style passion like in 50 Shades of Grey is perfect, and other times a slow, tender moment like in Normal People hits the right spot.

Fitness

Now, don’t panic — fitness doesn’t mean having washboard abs or massive muscles.

It’s really about stamina and having the energy to stay engaged and keep the experience fun and enjoyable for both partners.

About 90 percent of women agreed that bringing the right amount of energy to the bedroom matters.

Interestingly, only 33 percent cared about how fast a guy finishes.

Most women said they were happy as long as he was ready to continue a little longer to make sure everyone had a good time.

And of course, things then moved on to the spicier side of things.

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Suitable Dirty Talk

When it comes to dirty talk, there’s a fine line between sexy and just plain awkward. Respect is key — no one wants to feel objectified.

In fact, 53 percent of women said men should avoid going too over-the-top, while 74 percent preferred keeping things simple rather than trying to sound like a scene from an X-rated film.

Sometimes a simple, heartfelt “You’re so sexy” works better than any elaborate lines.

Next comes something that really should be obvious, but sadly often gets overlooked…

Foreplay

Many women can’t reach orgasm through penetration alone, so skipping foreplay is a huge mistake if you want to impress.

An overwhelming 86 percent of women said foreplay is a major factor in how they judge a guy’s skills in bed.

Even something as simple as passionate kissing or focusing on other body parts — before diving into the main event — makes a big difference, according to 90 percent of respondents.

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Cunnilingus

If you’re unfamiliar with the term, cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on a vagina.

And if you’re not willing to give as much as you get, you’re missing the mark.

A strong 82 percent of women said refusing to go down on them made a guy far less impressive in bed.

Bottom line: don’t be a hypocrite about it. Enough said.

Orgasm Awareness

A good partner knows how to help edge an orgasm out — and 73 percent of women said this kind of awareness is important to them.

But there’s also value in knowing when it’s just not happening.

About 89 percent said it’s just as important for a guy to understand when it’s time to ease off rather than pushing too hard.

Sensitivity is key — and it’s perfectly fine to ask if you’re unsure how your partner is feeling.

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Not Being Afraid to Get a Bit Rough

As long as everything is consensual and discussed beforehand, 75 percent of women said they liked it when their partner wasn’t afraid to get a little rough.

That said, don’t forget to balance things out with some gentle aftercare too. A little bit of cuddling afterward can go a long way.

Aftercare

Even if the session gets wild, plenty of women still love a good cuddle afterward.

A little bit of affection after intimacy can be just as important as what happens before and during.

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Keeping Your Ears and Eyes Open

Most importantly, communication is everything. Sex can be amazing, but it can also be awkward or intimidating if people aren’t paying attention.

It’s no wonder 84 percent of women said they think a man is good in bed if he’s great at picking up on verbal and non-verbal feedback.

Stay tuned in, watch, listen, and if you’re ever unsure — just ask. It makes all the difference.