
At seventy, my mom suddenly decided to buy herself a designer dress for $1800 — just to wear it at rare meetings with her friends. 😢
It struck me to the core. She wasted such a huge amount while my son was about to start college, and any financial help mattered.
When she mentioned the dress at dinner, I almost choked on my water.
I barely held myself back from being rude to my mom and went home irritated. I went through memories — how she spent every last penny on her grandchildren, how she saved on herself so we could have gifts. And now this — a dress?
A few days later, I couldn’t hold back anymore.
“Mom,” I said, “I think you acted like a real selfish person. How can you buy such an expensive dress when your grandson needs your help?”
Her answer shocked me. I never thought my mom was capable of that… Continued in the first comment ⬇️⬇️
“You know, when I was 32, I saw a dress in a shop window. Blue, with tiny buttons. I stood looking at it until your brother started crying in the stroller. I walked on. And I didn’t come back. Do you know why? Because that year you both needed new shoes. And I chose you.”
I felt my heart tighten.
“And it wasn’t a sacrifice,” she added, “it was a decision. My choice. I have lived my life giving. With joy. And now… I wanted to keep something for myself. At least once.”
I was silent. Didn’t know what to say. Then she said something I didn’t expect:
“But you know, I still saved money for my grandson. I started saving three years ago. It’s a farewell gift before college. I just… wanted to see if you could let me be not only a grandmother but also a woman.”
I was stunned. Embarrassed. And deeply touched.
“Why didn’t you tell me right away?”
“Because you had to find the answer yourself. We don’t always have to explain our desires. Sometimes loved ones just have to trust.”