These days, it seems like more couples are exploring open relationships or different forms of polyamory than ever before.
From traditional swingers to throuples and all kinds of setups in between, monogamy doesn’t seem to be the only go-to relationship style anymore.
But what does ‘hotwifing’ really mean and how is it any different from all the other non-monogamous setups people talk about?
Hotwifing refers to a dynamic where the husband finds pleasure or excitement in knowing that his wife is being intimate with other people outside of their marriage.
“It’s kind of like letting your friend test drive your car.” shared one man in an interview with MailOnline when asked to describe how it feels.
“He gets to see how well it rides. He’s got to give it back, but it creates a sense of pride. You get a little taste of what my life is like.”
How do couples find out they’re into ‘hotwifing’?
Bringing up the idea of opening your relationship might sound pretty uncomfortable at first. I mean, what if one partner is totally open to the idea, but the other wants to stick to a traditional setup?
Luckily, in many cases, people who are into non-monogamy tend to bring it up pretty early on. That way, everyone knows where they stand from the beginning.
In the case of adult content creator Holly Jones, she realized that this lifestyle was something she really connected with soon after she met the man who would become her husband.
“Totally accidental, he didn’t set it up.” she added. “It just kind of happened.”
The next morning, she asked her now-husband if living that kind of lifestyle regularly was something he’d want to pursue.
“He was in the lifestyle before,” she said. “He introduced me to it and ever since our first date we’ve been pretty much hotwifing.”
Why do they do ‘hotwife’?
This way of living might be very different from what most people are used to. So, what is it that draws Holly and her husband to the hotwife lifestyle?
“I really think it depends on personalities.” she explained. “We don’t really have jealously issues or insecurities.”
“He would always say ‘I have the hottest woman in the world, why would I not want to share?”
“It’s not the degrading aspect, it’s like, ‘Look what I have.’ It’s kind of the trophy thing, but it fulfils his fantasies so there’s nothing disrespectful about it. It’s comfortable to us.”
Holly believes that exploring this lifestyle has helped deepen their bond, saying: “The moment you open your mouth and confess a fantasy, you’re taking a step forward and that’s how our relationship grows.”